One Simple Rule for Outstanding Relationships
And advice so you can DO, BE, CREATE it to impact your world
Because most of us have been taught to meet the needs of others, we have sidestepped the importance of understanding reciprocity in our relationships. Reciprocity requires people to be dedicated and ethical in their relationships.
“Lack of reciprocity ruins friendships but makes love affairs exciting for a time.” – Mason Cooley
Let’s face it, relationships require work. Simple, everyday, demands can strain us, rob us of intimacy and wear on our mental health. And the major source of these stressors also threatens the stability of all our relationships. For intimate relationships to grow and become healthy, lasting, and go the distance, reciprocity is vital.
So, I have a question for you – Would you like to get your relationships manageable and on track, in one session (or even ten)? Yes, it’s possible! The key to this reality is right here, right now. You can solve all your relationship difficulties by learning a method of social psychology called The Law of Reciprocity.
I remember, like it was yesterday, when I got “IT”. It felt like a lightning bolt of energy going through my entire mind, body and soul. I shouted out, “All my f-ing pain, in ALL my relationships, over all these years, has been due to the lack of RECIPROCITY!”.
Being a good steward of the Course In Miracles, in the 1990’s, I knew I was supposed to go into those relationships to give, not to take. And boy, how I gave. I gave with the expectation the other would give back. NOT! . . . Totally my bad for having that expectation. Right then and there I owned it. I knew, having the expectation that all people are capable of, and understand, reciprocity was the catalyst to all the drama and pain in my relationships. It was I that caused my sorrow, and no one else.
My Secret…….. the 3 Strikes & Your Out Rule
#1. Nobody is too busy, it’s just a matter of priorities
#2. No added value is a game changer. Was “that” necessary?
#3. No horse trading. Action not reaction
Reciprocity became the foundation of my life once I learned to give, to share, and care about others, without having the expectation of them doing the same in return. Now, to be true to myself, reciprocity is a must, right out of the gate. I see it, feel it, and know it. It’s a must have in all my relationships. Simply put: No Reciprocity, No Ida!
“There is one word which may serve as a rule of practice for all one’s life – Reciprocity.” – Confucius
Knowing, and understanding, reciprocity requires you to speak your truths and be true to yourself. I’m stronger because of my mistakes, happier because of the sadness I’ve known, and wiser because I learned The Law of Reciprocity. My prayer for you is: that you get it sooner, rather than later, in life. That you save yourself time, money, heartache and pain by understanding how to quickly implant reciprocity into your relationships. Remember – the more rules you have, the more pain you’re going to have.
Let’s Keep It Going!