Who You Are at Your Core Never Changes

Who you are at your core personality never changes. You can add to it, you can delete from it, but you cannot change your essence.

Why do people look for reasons to blame others to justify their thoughts and behaviors? Because countless factors impact who we are and how we behave. It is our personality that is at the core of our behavior. Your core is the driving force of your innate behavior, skills, and talents.

Our conscience is our voice of reason, our checks and balances for right and wrong.

Our personality - our core motive - speaks to us about being true to ourselves.

You cannot ignore what drives your core motive, nor can you pretend that motive does not matter. If you do, you will never experience your true self. Personality is innate, and it is motive-based.

“Stay True to Who You Are,” writes Loren Slocum, Mother, Wife, International Life/Balance Coach and Speaker, and Founder of LoBella International. Loren’s message rings true in all of us. We each have an innate desire to become the best we can be, and the best way to do this is to know thyself. Loren, a dear long-time friend, always empowers me to be true to myself.

So ask yourself, “What motivates me the most, at this time in my life, to be the best I can be?” Your answer is the fuel to start your engines for 2010. Living a deliberate life - living with passion and purpose - comes from claiming yourself.

Increase your ability to stay the course, once charted, and to trust the process to be your best through clarity and boundaries. Make a commitment to stay around healthy people; to stay close to nature; and to keep learning, something you can truly do on a golf course. Golf is a great way to connect with nature and to have confidence, inner motivation, a positive sense of self, and courage. Each of these are ways to increase your congruence.

Staying on your life course requires a charted course - a mind-map. Each of us needs to live creatively in both stable and unstable times. Each of us can condition ourselves to correct and improve our state in the moment.

Don’t wait until you feel your life is taking you nowhere to begin: do it now. “The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn… and change” said Carl Rogers. And I agree. The future belongs to the congruent!