Who You Are at Your Core Never Changes

Who you are at your core personality never changes. You can add to it – you can delete from it, but you cannot change your essence.

Why do people look for reason to blame others to justify their thoughts and behaviors? Because countless factors impact who we are and how we behave and it is our personality that is at the core of our behavior. Your core is the driving force of your innate behavior, skills and talents.

Our conscience is our voice of reason, our checks and balances for right and wrong.

Our personality, our core motive speaks to us about being true to our self’s.

You cannot ignore what drives your core motives, nor can you pretend they don’t matter because if you do – you will never experience your true self. Personality is innate and motive-based.

“Stay True to Who You Are,” writes Loren Slocum, a Mother, Wife, International Life/Balance Coach and Speaker, Founder of LoBella International. Loren’s message rings true in all of us. We each have an innate
desire in becoming the best we can be and the best way to do this is to know thyself. Loren, a dear long time friend, always empowers me to be true to myself.

So ask yourself, “What motivates me the most at this time in my life to be the best I can be?” The answer is the fuel to start your engines for 2010. Living a deliberate life, living with passion and purpose, comes from claiming yourself.

Ways to increase your ability to stay the course and trust the process to be your best, once charted, comes from clarity and boundaries. Make a commitment to stay around healthy people, stay close to nature, and keep learning, something you can truly do on a golf course. Golf is a great way to connect with nature, have confidence, inner motivation and a positive sense of self and courage. Each of these are ways to increase your congruence.

Staying on your life course, takes a charted course- a mind-map. Each of us needs to live creatively in stable and unstable times. Each of us can condition ourselves to correct and improve our state in the moment.

Don’t wait until you feel your life is taking you nowhere to begin, do it now. “The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn… and change” said Carl Rogers. And I agree. The future belongs to the congruent!