What Is Good Emotional Health?

Keeping Your Problems in Perspective.

We all have them. Problems. And if you’re like most people you would love to learn how to avoid problems altogether. Perhaps you would also like a better understanding what good emotional health is and how it effects how well you deal with the unexpected challenges of life.

First, ask yourself a question. Do you keep your problems in perspective? People with good emotional health are in control of their thoughts, feelings and behaviors. They feel good about themselves and have good relationships. They can keep their problems in perspective by a connectible understanding, it’s not what happens to you – it’s what you do with what happens to you. They know emotion creates motion.

To help you use this idea you must first begin with the examination of your "state" management. How we represent all of our experience, and how we feel as a result is where our emotional mastery begins. The “state” that we are in at the time the problem presents itself drives our reaction to it. Sometimes this is good – sometimes bad.

So when is it good? When a firefighter is going Code 3, just the activity itself will put an individual into a state; a physiology, a pattern of language and a pattern from experiences and references of what they should believe about the situation and what they should focus on. This triad is the source of "state" management. Your physiology, your language, your focus and beliefs cause emotional triggers, and that effect triggers your behavior.

When is it bad? Sometimes it is something as simple as best laid plans don’t prevail for you. You go into a "state" of frustration focusing on the problem, not the solution, and the belief that it is the worst thing that could happen to you in that moment, day or week. In this situation your physiology, your language and focus are most often not at their best and you feel and know you have behaved badly.

How do you avoid problems and deal with your emotions? Conditioning. Go to the “Mind Gym.” Seek ideas, options and perspectives so you can try to recognize your emotions and understand why you are having them. Learn how to sort out the causes of sadness, frustration and anger in your life so you can help yourself better manage your emotional health. Learn to express your feeling in appropriate ways.

It’s important to let people close to you know when something is bothering you. Think before you act, everything is first a thought, then an action. Strive for balance in your life and don’t feel inferior to ask for or seek help. You have got to find a way to let people know you're in need of support. If we don't embrace change, we don't grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living. The only thing constant in life is change. It is your consistent daily actions, not what you do once in a while, that determines how you can create a compelling future. Make a commitment to yourself, that when you make change, make your change for progress.

Take care of your physical heath as well. Your physical heath and your emotional health go hand in hand.